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They lost your number or forgot to call.

Ok, now let me ask you…

Did you figure out what each of these situations has in common?

I’ll give you a hint:

It has something to do with your feelings.

Give up?

There are 2 things actually.

First off, none of them have ANYTHING to do with you being a “loser”, like you mentioned.

See, the fascinating thing is that in each of these situations, it’s YOUR CHOICE to make the MEANING out of them that you want.

Unfortunately, it seems like the meaning you’ve chosen to make has been NEGATIVE.

In other words, you’ve actually started to criticize yourself and think even more negatively because two guys didn’t pick up the phone and punch in your number.

Talk about a way to make sure you keep screwing up and feeling bad about your love life.

And worse, men can actually sense these things when you meet them and will instantly categorize you as a woman that they don’t want to be around if you’ve got that freaked out, negative, over- attachment to the casual conversation you’re having with them.

Here’s the second thing each of these situations has in common…

Of the ones that don’t involve men just being weird or “unavailable” for more than a casual fling, there’s a common theme going on.

They weren’t FEELING ATTRACTION.

See, there’s something I don’t think you see you’re doing here…

You seem to know about an important concept when it comes to men - teasing and throwing in certain kinds of “challenges” to attract their interest and attention.

But… there’s a huge difference between KNOWING what these things are and actually DOING them.

The thing is, almost all women KNOW that they SHOULD tease and excite a man to dial up his interest.

But when it comes to actually doing these things in a fun, consistent, and exciting way, they fall short.

Why?

Because who wants to bother?

And isn’t it better for someone to just like you for you?

Maybe.

But what if there’s a real and genuine “you” that men just need some help to see with so much other stuff going on?

And what if you’re hiding that away because of your frustrations from the past or fears about what might happen in the present?

Here’s a radical thought…

With things not going exactly how you want them to go with your love life - imagine if you actually changed a few of YOUR everyday patterns of behavior with men to try and get a few different results.

What are the odds that part of the common denominator here is YOU, and not that all men have the exact same problem or issue with calling back?

Would it be too much to ask that you at least try a few different things that were outside of your “natural” comfort zone of what you’ve always done or what makes sense to you?

I don’t think so.

So let’s talk about what those patterns are that you need to break, and what to try instead that WORKS with men.

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