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Creating Reasons For A Man To Call You Back - #4“Should I just not accept that he tells me he’s going to call?” Great question. Here’s the thing… It’s important for you to have “boundaries” with men. It’s important for your own good, to help him know what’s fair game and what isn’t and to lay some constructive framework for a future relationship. A key step in every growing relationship is to communicate what your personal boundaries are so that the other person can learn to respect them. But, in situations where you don’t even know the person very well, it’s not as simple as just laying it out there. So… it’s also important that you don’t communicate these boundaries in a pushy, weird, needy, overly-sensitive way where men will instantly pull away from you. I know, I know… for lots of women this sounds like a contradiction. When they hear it they’ll think… “You mean I’m supposed to be “unpredictable” and create attraction, but I’m also supposed to be assertive enough to communicate my boundaries.” “This is too much hassle… I just want to be me, and if a guy doesn’t like it, then tough!” It’s no surprise that a lot of the women with this attitude (and men) are single and home alone on Friday nights watching David Letterman. And wonder why their relationships just seem to fall apart after a while… over and over. The truth is, communicating boundaries and creating attraction with a man are NOT mutually exclusive activities. AND… if you know how, these kinds of situations can become AMAZING OPPORTUNITIES to create attraction and GROWTH between you and a man. If you know how to communicate with a man in the right way, you can get the response that you want (attraction) AND communicate a clear message. Which in your case might be for him to respect your boundaries by calling if he says he’s going to call. But if you don’t get the subtle specifics of how to communicate with a man this way, then often times you’ll come off as pushy or “bitchy” like lots of other women do when they try to assert boundaries early on with men. Try saying something like this in a semiserious way but with a smirk on your face… “You know, I might just decide to give you my number, but I’m not sure if you’re the right kind of guy yet - because I’m VERY PICKY and I only give my number out to guys that A) have their act together and B) are smart enough to know what they’re missing if they don’t call.” And then write down your number and hold it out for him to grab. But when he reaches for it, pull it away from his hand a little bit so he misses it… Then keep teasing him and ask him again with a wry smile on your face… “Well, do you have your act together? Because I really don’t have time for boys that don’t This kind of thing will drive a man CRAZY and triggers a deep level attraction response - that’s not just a “physical” thing. Einen Kommentar schreiben
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