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Why Men Don’t Call - Situation #5为什么男人不来电的情况#5They lost your number or forgot to call.他们丢了电话号码或忘. Ok, now let me ask you…好,现在让我问你:: Did you figure out what each of these situations has in common?您搞清楚这些情况已分别于共同? I’ll give you a hint:我给你一个暗示: It has something to do with your feelings.它有可能同你的心情. Give up?放弃? There are 2 things actually.事情其实还有2. First off, none of them have ANYTHING to do with you being a “loser”, like you mentioned.其一是,没有人跟你是"输家",像你所说. See, the fascinating thing is that in each of these situations, it’s YOUR CHOICE to make the MEANING out of them that you want.看到奇妙的是,在这些情况下,这是你们的选择,让他们知道你想出来的含义. Unfortunately, it seems like the meaning you’ve chosen to make has been NEGATIVE.可惜,好像你的意思已经做出选择了消极. In other words, you’ve actually started to criticize yourself and think even more negatively because two guys didn’t pick up the phone and punch in your number.换句话说,其实你开始觉得自己和批评更为不利,因为两个家伙没有拿起手机、冲你多少. Talk about a way to make sure you keep screwing up and feeling bad about your love life.谈到如何做到让你倒,心疼你热爱生活. And worse, men can actually sense these things when you meet them and will instantly categorize you as a woman that they don’t want to be around if you’ve got that freaked out, negative, over- attachment to the casual conversation you’re having with them.而更糟的是,其实这些东西男人感见面,当你作为一名女性,你会马上割除它们不想被左右,如果你freaked出消极过度依恋随便你在与他们的交谈. Here’s the second thing each of these situations has in common…这里的第二件分别有共同点::这些情况 Of the ones that don’t involve men just being weird or “unavailable” for more than a casual fling, there’s a common theme going on.对那些不涉及男人刚刚被怪或"无"多掼散,有一个共同的主题进行. They weren’t FEELING ATTRACTION.他们并不感到吸引力. See, there’s something I don’t think you see you’re doing here…看到我有你看不觉得你在这里做什么:: You seem to know about an important concept when it comes to men - teasing and throwing in certain kinds of “challenges” to attract their interest and attention.你似乎知道的重要概念说到男人戏,扔在某种"挑战",以吸引他们的兴趣和关注. But… there’s a huge difference between KNOWING what these things are and actually DOING them.::但是还有很大差距,却不知道这些东西,实际上做的. The thing is, almost all women KNOW that they SHOULD tease and excite a man to dial up his interest.这个东西,几乎每个妇女都知道,要戏耍,一名男子打电话激发起他的兴趣. But when it comes to actually doing these things in a fun, consistent, and exciting way, they fall short.但到了实际上做这些事情,在轻松、连贯,激动地,但距离. Why?为什么? Because who wants to bother?因为人想什么? And isn’t it better for someone to just like you for you?而不是像你不如别人吗? Maybe.或许. But what if there’s a real and genuine “you” that men just need some help to see with so much other stuff going on?但如果有一个真实而真正的"你",男人只要看到有这么多有帮助其他的东西呢? And what if you’re hiding that away because of your frustrations from the past or fears about what might happen in the present?如果你认为什么藏匿因您从过去的挫折或者担心可能发生什么在本? Here’s a radical thought…这里的激进思想:: With things not going exactly how you want them to go with your love life - imagine if you actually changed a few of YOUR everyday patterns of behavior with men to try and get a few different results.事情到底怎么想他们不会跟你的爱情生活,其实如果你想象你天天变数与男子的行为模式,试图找几个不同的结果. What are the odds that part of the common denominator here is YOU, and not that all men have the exact same problem or issue with calling back?什么是赔率那段最大公约数这里你而不是人人都确切相同问题还是问题唤回? Would it be too much to ask that you at least try a few different things that were outside of your “natural” comfort zone of what you’ve always done or what makes sense to you?难道你过份要求至少尝试一些不同的东西,被外你的"自然"舒适带什么或做什么,你总是有道理吗? I don’t think so.我不这样认为. So let’s talk about what those patterns are that you need to break, and what to try instead that WORKS with men.所以说说你需要什么,这些模式打破,什么工程,而是试图与男人. Einen Kommentar schreibeneinenKommentarschreiben
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