And here’s something else bizarre about men…

Why does a man who’s been giving his love
and affection to a woman and shared a great
relationship suddenly change his mind and leave?

Even if there wasn’t some big moment that
changed things?

Interesting questions…

If you’re like lots of women I’ve talked
to, then you’ve had the experience of a man
losing interest after a few dates, or leaving
a more serious relationship unexpectedly for
what seemed like no good reason.

When this happens with a great guy who you
could have seen an amazing future with, you end
up wondering over and over about why he was really
leaving… and you end up often feeling like you
would be willing to do almost ANYTHING to get him
to stay since he seemed like he was the right man
for you.

Unfortunately, I’m sure you know what I’m
talking about here.

- You met an incredible man and you really hit
it off at the beginning. But the more time you
spent with him, the less interested he became…
but the MORE interested you became. You could feel
the balance of power shifting, but there was
nothing you could do about it. Eventually he just
stopped calling and seeing you, but he never
explained why in a way that made any sense…

- You were seeing a man for several months,
maybe even a year or so. Everything seemed fine.
But then one day he came to you and said, “I
don’t know how I feel anymore, and I just need
some time ALONE… it’s not YOU, it’s ME”… but,
his time “alone” turned into him seeing some other
woman that wasn’t nearly the woman you are…

- You were in a serious long-term relationship
that had lasted more than a couple of years, and
you were with the man you thought you’d spend
the rest of your life with. Sure, you had your
problems, but you knew that you’d always work
through whatever came up, and he would stick by
your side forever. Out of nowhere, he started
acting strange and distant… he started to become
more frustrated, cold, and sometimes angry… and
no matter how hard you tried to make him feel
better and do nice things, it only got worse.
Then he dropped the bomb that he didn’t love you
anymore, and he was leaving. Or maybe he cheated
on you, then told you as his way of breaking up…

…of course, there are a million variations of
these basic situations, but I’ll bet you can
identify with at least one of them.

These situations SUCK… and the PAIN and the
FRUSTRATION that comes up any time this happens to
you with a man makes you wonder what all of your
time, love, and attention was for.

Did you waste it all on something you thought
was special and real that he didn’t share or feel
the same way about?

You wish you would have had some warning or
been able to see it coming so you wouldn’t be
so blindsided… or you could avoid it or do
something to prevent it in the first place.

It’s bad enough having the man you like or
love leave you… but to have to ALSO deal with
the fact that you didn’t even see or feel it
coming and that there’s NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT
IT can be just plain depressing.

Again, if you’ve been there, nod silently with
me…

The first thing you must realize in this type
of situation with a man is that the problem you’re
dealing with isn’t what you THINK it is.

I’ll explain what I mean by this…

Most women naturally assume that a man is
leaving them because they’re not being “nice”
or good enough in the relationship, or that they
aren’t giving him what he wants.

Or they assume that this is just “one of those
things that happens” because men don’t get it,
or that “feelings change” and that there’s really
nothing you could have done anyway.

Well, these ideas, and almost all the others
that most women think are DEAD WRONG.

Let me give you a hint.

If you’ve had these kinds of situations
happen to you more than once, then the reality
is that:

1) There’s likely a PATTERN going on here in YOUR
LIFE that a man, or men in general, play just a
small part in creating and living out with you.

2) As part of this pattern in your life, YOU are
the one who is bringing the thinking and behavior
that helps create these situations yourself…
and you need to get rid of these old ways of doing
things that don’t work and throw them out before
you’re truly going to be able to grow and move
forward in your love life.

That’s why it’s time to start over and open
your mind to a new way of seeing and doing things
that will help you quickly grow and learn. And
best of all… get you NEW RESULTS and OUTCOMES
in your love life… such as a more fulfilling and
lasting relationship.

I’ll share more on how to start out on your
own growth path in your love life later…

YOU CAN’T SOLVE IT WITH MORE OF THE SAME

Now I want to talk about the critical things
to NOT do when it comes to men and dating.

I know that this is going to sound pretty
obvious, but if what you’re doing isn’t working
in a particular situation, you need to STOP.

Don’t keep doing what’s NOT working for you.

In other words, if the man you like or love is
breaking up with you and you’ve been being nice
to him, doing whatever he wants, trying to convince
him to stay, feeling so hurt and upset that you
cry when you see or talk to him, or telling him
that you’ll do anything to make it better and be
“available” to him however he wants you if he’ll
stay… then you need to STOP.

Stop it right now.

Whatever it is you’re doing that isn’t working
actually IS the thing that ISN’T WORKING. Duh.

So stop it now.

Doing more of the same is only going to get
you more of what is already happening.

I know this sounds obvious, but I’m not telling
you because I can’t think of anything else to say.

I’m telling you because I have talked to and
helped literally thousands of women find the love,
joy, security, and fulfillment they want in their
love lives…

And the single BIGGEST CHALLENGE getting them
started on their new path where they start doing
things that work well and feel great for them is
to simply get them to STOP what they’ve been
doing for years and years that isn’t working.

Have you ever been dating a guy and things
were going great, and then something came up or
you saw something in him or your relationship that
freaked you out… and you ended up feeling
hurt or scared and you let your emotions get the
best of you and you “lost it” on the man you
were with?

And afterwards, things didn’t seem to really
be the same between you ever again?

It was almost like in that moment he saw
or felt something from you that kept him from
ever getting close or opening up to you again.

If you’ve had this happen, then I can help
you avoid this in the future… and know how to
get things back on track no matter what happened
in the past.

I can help you stop doing what isn’t working
for you with men in your life.

I want you to take out a piece of paper and
a pen and write something down.

I’m serious about this, so go get a pen and
a piece of paper right now. I’ll wait for you to
go find these…

Ok, now that you’ve got a pen and something
to write on, let’s get started.

STEP 1)

I want you to first write down the most
recent situation you had with a man that didn’t
work.

Start by writing the man’s name. And then
below his name, write out what your situation
or relationship was when it was good in 1-2
short sentences.

Yours might look something like this…

“Mark”

“Mark was interested and attracted to me,
and we had great chemistry. He would call me
all the time, we’d share great conversations,
and we had some amazing times together.”

Now go ahead and write down briefly in a
couple of short sentences what your situation
was like when it was great.

Now I want you to write down how YOU and
YOUR behavior and thinking changed as your
situation or relationship started to change or
end. And again, do this in 1-2 short sentences.

It might look something like this…

“I started getting worried and anxious all
the time, and I tried to talk to him about what
was going on and how he felt. And I got upset
or frustrated with him and lost my composure
several times.”

Go ahead and write down how your own thinking
and behavior changed in a few short sentences.

Ok, now I want you to take a look at what
you’ve written in the last step about how your
behavior and thinking changed… and I want you
to do something that is going to be VERY SIMPLE
for you, yet VERY POWERFUL.

I want you to write down the 2 things that
you are going to STOP DOING with men in the
future.

Look at what you did, said, or thought in
the past right now, and I want you to see how
these things didn’t work for you… and I want
you to write out clearly what the 2 things are
for you that you’re going to STOP DOING in the
future.

Go ahead and write these down now. I’ll give
you a minute or two…
Good.

Now you’ve got some “actionable” things to
go out and use to create a better situation for
yourself with a man.

Keep these 2 things and make sure to look
at them every so often. They are going to be
big keys for you if you can keep them in mind.

And this is especially true early on when
you’re just “dating”.

When you boil it all down… when a man has
asked you out, takes you out on a few dates that
you felt were great, and then STOPS calling and
asking you out… he just plain isn’t FEELING IT
for you anymore.

Now, a man will say and do all kinds of
things OTHER than telling you that this is what’s
going on for him.

In fact, men have a million things in their
heads that keep them from being able to tell a
woman what they’re feeling. (That is, if they
even consciously know that this is what’s really
going on inside their own head)

Instead, men will “rationalize” what’s going
on inside them and think or say things like-

“I can’t tell her how I REALLY feel because
I don’t want to hurt her feelings that way”…

Or, “I can’t tell her what’s going on because
I can’t really explain it and I don’t want to
deal with the conversation”…

Or, “It’s just easier if I walk away and
don’t say anything”.

NOt fun stuff.

The thing is, when you take away all of the
B.S. and you get right to the core of what’s
going on, you’ll usually find that it all boils
down to ATTRACTION… or, more specifically,
the LACK of ATTRACTION.