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Communicating Your Expectations In An Accidentally Negative Way - When you start getting your hopes and expectations up, you begin to get ATTACHED to them. Then you run the risk of HOLDING ON TOO TIGHT to your little fantasy. Bad idea.

Men don’t date women and feel comfortable and excited to be with them when the woman starts off assuming too much… and turns the time they spend together and their relationship into what feels like a “requirement” or an “obligation”.

Remember, a good guy is used to having women want to become serious with him VERY QUICKLY… even though HIS MIND doesn’t always move at the same pace.

Often times, before a guy has had a chance to know if his relationship with a woman is something he really wants and could last… she’s already getting UPSET that he’s not “ready” the way she is.

In fact, some guys almost EXPECT to date a woman and then have her say, “You know, I’m a little frustrated or bothered by the way you are with me and our relationship…” or some other equally predictable and subtly negative statement.

Just like being desperate can destroy your chances with a man… liking a man too much, too fast and then communicating your own expectations to him through your negative emotions leads to bad outcomes as well.

Now, think over what I just said…

I’m basically saying that if you want to cure the problem of why it can be so hard to talk to a man when you’re dating and about moving things forward… then you have to go INSIDE first and become aware of what’s going on for yourself.

And then see how this affects HIM.

The GOOD NEWS is that doing this kind of “introspection” is not only good for you, it
also helps you once you do have a great guy and a real relationship.

So, here’s a few things I’d suggest you try:

Whats Going On INSIDE Yourself - Meeting Men & Dating

If you go out one evening with a couple of friends, and you meet a REALLY hot guy… and you wind up having a fun conversation and he asks for your number, what should you do?

Should you start thinking about how great it will be to be with him when you’re in a
committed relationship together?

No.

You should remember what we talked about - that often times when you really like a guy and you start filling your head with all kinds of expectations… you not only have a harder time being your “best self” when you’re around him again…

But you often end up acting in ways that turn him off and make him become closed off to the idea of a future with you.

Instead of putting all your “hopes” in this one situation, remember that this is just the
start… and that there’s a lot to learn and discover before a relationship could develop.
(at least one that would be healthy and “real”)

And of course, it never hurts to keep in mind that other guy you met a while back who
you connected with as well.

Think about it… when are you MOST likely to have a man be into you? When are you most likely to be in a great mood that actually ATTRACTS a man?

Exactly… when you’re not WORRIED or NERVOUS about what’s going to happen next.

So take advantage of this time.

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